I have discovered a stark contrast between what each sex thinks the opposite sex wants from them and what the opposite sex really does want.
What women think men want from them often causes women to have resentment and anger towards men, leaving women to feel hopeless about ever developing a wonderful, warm, romantic partnership. What men think women want from them often causes them much of the same feelings and frustration. If only we would realize that both men and women are human beings who pretty much want the same thing. But, you don't have to take my word for it since I've asked many men and women who are actively involved in personal growth and development what they want from a partner to build a great relationship. You will find their answers to be unexpected.
Discover what men said they want from women as contrasted with what women think men want. You’ll also find tips for women to give men what they want, attract a great man, and create a wonderful relationship.
1. HONEST COMMUNICATION IS A TOP PRIORITY FOR MEN.
They want a woman who answers questions honestly and perhaps even volunteers information. They want a woman who confidently asks for her wants and needs to be met. They want a woman who can see the truth and tell it like it is while communicating with kindness. Men want a woman who can communicate without being too critical and cares about preserving their dignity. Women think men want them to be superficial, keep quiet about their needs or wants, and never ask for anything. Women think men believe them to be too needy and too sensitive, and that men simply want women to get over it. Some women believe they do not have the permission to tell it like it is, that they will be rejected for speaking up.
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Great men want and need straightforward, courageous communication without anger or criticism. One way to attract a great man, and build a satisfying relationship, is to learn how to communicate your truth and needs effectively.
2. MEN WANT A SELF-SUFFICIENT, SECURE, AND CONFIDENT WOMEN.
Men want a woman to choose them from a place of "want" rather than from a place of desperation — either materially or emotionally. Men need to be wanted and needed by their partners, but they want their partners to have a separate identity. Men want a woman to be active and independent and to have her own friends and interests. On the other hand, men treasure time spent with a loving partner. Women think men don’t want women to need them. Women think men do not need or appreciate time spent together as a couple. Women believe that showing a man he is needed will turn him off and possibly make him run away.
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Men want what women want — a whole partner. One powerful way to attract a great man and build a vibrant relationship is to create a full, rewarding life for your own fulfillment.
3. MEN WANT A MANIPULATION-FREE RELATIONSHIP.
Men want no manipulation of any kind. They do not want to have to read their partner’s mind or try to interpret signals. They do not want to be forced to move faster in a relationship than they are ready. They do not want to be manipulated into taking all the blame for things gone wrong. They do not want to be on the receiving end of game playing. Women think men want little or no communication, and the only way to get needs met is through manipulation. Women think men either need or want to be reminded that the relationship needs to move forward. Women think men don’t want or value praise and acknowledgment, and so tend to only verbalize criticism.
A TIP FOR WOMEN
Men will not tolerate manipulation of any kind for any significant length of time. To attract a great man and build a wonderful relationship: (1) learn to ask without hesitation for what you want and need in every area of your life. (2) learn to be aware of his timing and his timeline (3) learn how to acknowledge and bestow praise.
4. MEN WANT GROWTH, PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY, AND OWNERSHIP.
Men want a partner who can laugh at herself and who has courage and strength. They want a woman who can see her part in relationship dynamics and own it. She has to be emotionally stable. Men want a woman who is developing herself personally, and who takes responsibility for her emotional experience. Women think men only want to have a good time. Women think men have no interest in developing and growing a relationship or developing and growing themselves. Women think men want women who are supermodels, and that they never consider whether a woman is emotionally mature, kind, supportive, or loving.
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Men want women who are emotionally mature. Maturity does not mean lack of emotions. It does mean the ability to handle emotions responsibly. To attract a great man and build a long-term relationship, learn to take responsibility for your emotional experience and expression.
5. MEN WANT FIDELITY AND A COMMITMENT TO THE RELATIONSHIP.
Fidelity is an absolute must. In fact, men want a woman who does not have a “roaming eye” and who can wholeheartedly commit to the relationship. Many may define commitment as fidelity plus the willingness to work on the relationship — even when the going gets tough. Women think that all men want is sex and that men will leave a relationship for the next prettier face. Women think men cannot be trusted to be faithful. Women believe men do not want to work on a relationship and that when the going gets tough, they run.
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Here is some great news for those women who are resigned to the myth that all men cheat — infidelity and “a roaming eye” are as distasteful to men as they are to women. Great men know how to build a wonderful relationship, and they know fidelity is the main ingredient.
6. MEN WANT WOMEN WHO KNOW HOW MEN NEED TO BE TREATED.
Many women treat men in ways that diminish their egos, making them feel inadequate. Men would rather have more praise, more acknowledgment of what they do right and recognition that they are great guys who are loved and appreciated. Women think that men do not value a woman's opinion, support, or praise. Women also believe men do not care about many things that are important to women, which is why women criticize. Criticism can be a way to verbalize resentment.
A TIP FOR WOMEN
Most men want acknowledgment and appreciation from women. Learning to acknowledge instead of making your partner wrong is one of the most powerful relationship survival tools available to you.
Thanks to © RINATTA PARIES. for permission to use this article for People On Dating
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Will Morales
"Just a conversation, No judgement"
