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AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator
I grew up in a pretty typical/dysfunctional family. My parents thought codependence was not only normal but aspirational. Yeah, I was set up for success in love, right?
So, that didn't go well. And, I really messed up in my first marriage. I didn't know that there were practical tools and mindset shifts that could get me from codependent to stable and interdependent.
When I started in my first consensually non-monogamous relationship I had no idea what questions to ask, what red flags to watch out for, and what parts of my old patterns I needed to change in order to invite more love into my world without damaging every damn person in range of my life.
Even once I started getting some parts working, my old patterns would kick me in the ass.
My way out of trouble has always been to dive in 100% so I got my doctorate in depth psychology, a certification in sexuality education, and became a researcher known for my work on the archetypal experience of jealousy.